Category: Life

Hey everyone, I asked the Q and you gave me the A. I will say the answers are too amazing not to share so I figured I’d create a blog post that lives here forever and serves as a wonderful reminder to look back on. I hope you find it helpful.

On Twitter (@SociallySteph) I asked you this simple question / statement:

Your best advice in 4 words or fewer.

Here’s the feedback collected. Let me know in the comments if one resonates with you today. Right now, more than ever, we’re all feeling stuck, uncertain, lacking motivation & on this rollercoaster ride. Pick one of these affirmations to carry with you today and for the rest of the week.

Be strong

It’s okay to rest

Believe in yourself

Don’t rush, take your time

Do it with love

It’s never too late to start

Be kind to yourself

Believe in yourself 

Actually design your life

Invest in yourself 

Debt eats wealth 

Sell directly to consumers

Make yourself indispensable 

Minimize risk, optimize opportunity 

Do not eat pinecones πŸ˜†

Google is your friend 

Play rulebooks not players

Just get started

The market always wins

Nobody knows anything

Breathe, 1, 2, 3 

Pick your battles

Be kind to everyone

Play with your food 

Don’t shame/blame people

Believe in your agency

Never argue on Internet

Courage is fear walking

Take a long breath

Invest in yourself daily

Thoughts become things

It’s just a game

Don’t stress, get better!

Walk a day

Go, be, do 

Stay true to yourself

Listen more, speak less

Stay sober and vertical 

This too shall pass

Stay the f*ck home 

To hell with expectations

Your mental health matters

Don’t worry, be happy

Just be yourself 

I love them all so much. Tune in with me every week on Instagram & Twitter for more awesome thought provoking questions and of course, realness. Love you all for staying connected with me on Socially Steph. Remember: The future is BRIGHT.

Two years ago I was invited into Baird & Warner to present myself & services as Socially Steph. πŸ‘‹ “Socially Steph is going to present in 10 minutes,” she said over the mic. I sat there laughing out loud (LOL πŸ˜‚ ) with the agents whom I was about to teach Instagram Stories & Facebook Ads too. I couldn’t believe something was coming to life here. It felt like a business was truly being born & indeed it was.

I walked out of there confident, happy & excited. I had my very first Real Estate client and that morning I can still remember the feeling of truly CREATING something on my own.

Every Monday, I taught my group fitness class at LA Fitness at the time. This is what I call my “happy hour” πŸ˜ƒ because it truly is one of the best things in the world to uplift people’s mood, spirit, mindset & health. It’s a huge passion of mine and led me to create ELEV8workout.

Later that evening, I’ll never forget it or the text I received from my Dad at 10:47pm. “Steph, come to the hospital. I don’t think Grandpa is going to make it.”

My Grandpa had been fighting stage 4 prostate cancer for 7+ years and he was the definition of true strength. He had fought hard not only in his own business at Chicago Studio City, but for his life. Every day.

It was hard to think that Monday, June 26th would be the last day I ever saw him. The last minutes with him felt like a blurr and I caught myself thinking about life as I watched my Grandpa slowly pass and leave me.

My biggest inspiration, one of my greatest teachers, listeners & advice givers. Someone whom I loved so deeply & made me feel like the biggest brightest light in the room – was gone. I held onto his hand tightly as he gave his last breath. I was in awe that earlier that day was the highest of highs and then I reached my lowest of lows (ever).

Socially Steph was born the same day my Grandpa died & every client win, every time I self doubt myself, every blessing that comes my way I think of him. He is there for me every step of this journey and that is something I am grateful for. Before he passed he left me with some wise words when I was feeling stuck. He said, Steph,

“Whatever you put your energy into you’ll be successful”

Supporting entrepreneurs and brands is what I have set out to do and love doing. My business is not just a business, it’s my heart, energy, passion & it’s here to serve you so that you can shine brighter on & offline. πŸŒŸ #thefutureisBRIGHT

If you never try, you’ll never know. A few years ago when I was working in corporate I thought I wanted to change careers and be a travel writer.

This idea of travel & writing was weighing heavy on my mind. The only way I knew I’d get a taste of this was to actually try it myself. I booked my first ever solo travel trip to Denver and I used this as a way to see if this is something I can picture myself doing long term. I did my best to envision what this career life would be like. Constant travel, writing about different destinations, and getting paid opportunities to travel seemed so fun to me.

However, once I put myself into “pretending” to be a travel writer I realized a few things immediately. 1. I don’t want to document every thing I do while traveling because I want to enjoy the moments traveling freely. 2. Traveling is a helluva lot of work and sitting in airports ain’t my thang. Ya feel me? I’ll just stick to vacations.

Shortly after that trip I ended up back on the beach in Fort Lauderdale where I came up with the idea to create SociallySteph.com. Initially, I thought I’d weave in my travels to this site along with style & fitness. A few months ago I created a profile with RewardSTYLE & LikeToKnowIt. I was excited to be able to leverage this platform and pair it with @SociallySteph.

Style is something I personally love, but I don’t want it to be something I am having to share constantly. To be successful in any area of life in business you need consistency & love for what you’re creating. If style happens to fall into what I do great but it’s not my main focus. Check out my first LikeToKnowIt post here:

I believe the only way you’ll ever figure out what you essentially want to do and who you want to become is to simply try. Try it all. Do the things that light you up and in those moments you’ll only gain more clarity and get closer to that AHA moment where you’re like, THIS IS IT! What have you been longing to try but push to the side?

The more you try the better you become overall and you’ll get to learning what path you truly want to take. I hope this post was helpful for you. Here’s to trying more things, together.

At the end of every year I look back and reflect on everything – from happy moments & gains to learnings & failures. 2019 hold some of the happiest days of my life: Our wedding (5/11/19), an amazing honeymoon to Greece & continuing to build my business, blog and online community. With some of the happiest days there was much sadness, hardship and personal growth to get there.

This year I’ve felt lost, confused, uncertain, and more confident all at the same time in this path I have chosen. Being an entrepreneur & planning a wedding have been two of the biggest challenges this year. Both brought so much joy, anxiety and stress. It’s hard to explain this in words and one post alone so I am considering the next best route for my brand to go is PODCASTING. I look forward to plugging this thing in come 2020. Be sure to stay tuned for future episodes.

I try my very best to be 100% real & authentic with everyone that visits any corner of my space online because I am someone who speaks truth & I appreciate when people show up as they are, instead of trying to be someone else. 2019 for me was a mix of going after my goals and keeping myself stuck in a variety of ways. It’s not always easy to show up in a public space online, but I do very much so enjoy sharing my happiness & love of life with you. Naturally I am a sharing type, but I do believe there needs to be boundaries set when it comes to privacy.

Β I always have so much to say and it sits in my notes πŸ‘Ž that makes me legit sad to even say. But I tend to get stuck in being consistent with my own pages because I am producing so much for others, however, that’s an excuse I am looking to kick next year. We must always make time for the things we want in our life to manifest. I owe it to myself to become the best version of myself, and so do YOU!

Honestly, what is @SociallySteph if she isn’t creating & sharing it with the world showing you that you too can achieve a life & business you love.

2020 is the time to stop with excuses or worrying what anyone will think about YOU, your life & what you’re going after. Unless they’re paying your bills, their opinions don’t matter. βœ‹ Moving into 2020 I know: ⁣

I’m still chasing my career in πŸ‘Ÿ…⁣⁣

I’m still working my booty off …⁣⁣

I’m still dedicated as ever to my craft… ⁣

I’m still going even when I want to give up …⁣⁣

I’m still taking risks and challenging myself …⁣⁣

This is what I loveπŸ’• . This is what I’ve chosen & created. Is it always easy? HECK NO! ⁣

The only way to grow and learn is to throw yourself into it. Refuse to go another 365 days holding yourself back. Step into a life you love and desire.

EMBRACE IMPERFECTION.JUST START.✨

What’s your mantra for 2020? ⁣⁣Leave it below in the comments.

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